Burnt Toast Blog
by Geeta Bagga
Category: Guest Articles on Parenting Issues
Studies show that the happiest and most well-rounded children are those who maintain good relationships with their family members.
In today's highly technical, fast-paced environment, it's relatively easy to lose sight of what's most important in the world. Communication in a family is essential in building strong bonds between family members. Strong bonds give kids better self esteem, can lead them to better grades and make them less likely to succumb to peer pressure. Additionally, family communication around infants and toddlers can help them to increase vocabulary, understand facial expressions and absorb adult conversation and cadence.
Communication is important for sharing of ideas, thoughts and feelings among people. It doesn't have to include words and can be something simple like a smile; even silence communicates. By communicating with your children regularly, you not only show that you're interested in their lives but that they are also important to you.
We all know that every family has their issues, whether it's related to a different perspective, point of view or approach. Therefore, learning how to address conflicts is equally important. Loving, healthy family relationships are built and maintained through positive conflict resolution, ongoing communication and shared quality time. Below are some tips on how to deal with conflicts when communicating with your child.
- Review family patterns & regularly assess whether needs are being understood & met
- Consider whether conflicts usually reach a satisfactory end
- Are you specific about issues at hand?
- Can you negotiate and agree on a compromise, even if you disagree on an issue?
Remember that family time is quality time. Something as little as an hour a day is a good start to initiating conversations about individual and family needs. Not sure how to initiate conversations? Try some of these door openers; you may be surprised at the response(s) you get back.
- How do you feel about your body?
- What do you like best about yourself?
- When you are feeling down, who do you like to talk to? Why?
- Which values are important to you? Why?
As well, keep in mind that the first five minutes after you get home can be worth a great deal; take the time for an individual hug and a greeting that says something as simple as, I recognize you. Tub time, kitchen time, and some other short periods can be just as impactful when someone is willing to listen. As a parent, when you pay attention to trivial things, children may be encouraged to talk about the serious things in their life.
Overall, healthy communication with your child is one of the most important and rewarding skills that you can develop as a parent. So I ask, have you spoken to your child today?
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About Geeta Bagga:
From Richmond Hill,Ontario, Geeta enjoys being a regular forum contributor for ChildsPlay101. Her work intends to inspire and inform parents of sources covering a variety of topics.
Geeta also enjoys writing bedtime stories for young children. Drawing on a rich cultural history and background, she has strong artistic flair which emanates in her tales. Her latest title includes Gracie Meets the Sock Monster